I Don't Go to Therapy Because..

Three Reasons That People Avoid Therapy

1. Only People with Real Problems Go to Therapy

There are several reasons why this thinking is flawed. First and foremost, this type of thinking minimizes your problems. You might be thinking, well isn’t that the goal, to minimize your problems. Let’s use an example. Say currently you are a single adult feeling isolated and lonely, and sometimes you can’t sleep at night, worrying that you might end up alone. If your internal dialogue says that this isn’t a real problem, you are invalidating your feelings, undermining yourself even more. In fact, you may be adding to the emotional distress, because you are now saying to yourself that you feel isolated and lonely, AND that your thoughts and feelings aren’t valued.

2. Therapy Only Helps Other People, Not Me

This one, has an obvious hypocrisy to it. If therapy is the solution you chat about amongst your friends for a third party, then you believe that therapy can be used beneficially.

“Yeah I know, she has been acting strange lately and hasn’t been showing up at our get togethers.  She should probably see a therapist soon.”

I have heard this statement countless times in various different formats, but the idea is that therapy is something for other people. Not me. The truth is that literally everyone has highs and lows, and we all could use some improvement in our coping skills. That is why, for the most part, therapists work from a wellness model. This means that we think of your mental health on a spectrum, and that even if you don’t have a diagnosable disorder, you can always feel better!

3. I Will Make the Call When Everything Slows Down

This excuse applies to people who are putting off setting up an appointment because the process of finding a therapist seems daunting. This becomes especially true for people who don’t have insurance, financial stability, and/or have never been to therapy before. The issue with this is that if your life is feeling chaotic and unsettled, it is possible that without learning some coping skills, or getting some perspective, this feeling will get worse before it gets better.

Therapists will go out of their way to make the process of setting up your therapy very comfortable and supported. Even if you reach out to a therapist who doesn’t fit your financial needs or have the perfect skill set for you, they will find a referral (or several) to make sure that you get what you need.

I would love to be the therapist that you reach out to first. Please give me a call if you are interested in starting therapy for yourself, your relationship, or your family!
Rebecca Neufeld LMFT-A

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